What Nannies Dont Like or How to Treat Your Nanny
Being paid Unfairly
Most nannies have worked hard, often to degree level, to attain professional qualifications. Choosing to be a nanny is a clear career choice for many and one which they are dedicating their time and energy to. As with any other professional position, nannies expect their expertise to be recognised and to receive fair remuneration for their efforts. To be offered less than a wage commensurate with their market value or to be treated as the help is considered to be very demeaning.
Being OverworkedAnother common bugbear for many nannies is being regularly asked to work over-time. Standard hours for a nanny are 10 per day, excluding travel for live-out nannies, so they already work a long day. When families ask their nanny to just do a couple of extra hours when there is no particular urgency, this takes them to a 12-hour shift. Nannying, unlike other jobs, may not include breaks during the working day, in that they remain responsible for the children all day and cant just leave them to take a lunch hour, so 12 hours really does mean 12 hours. If you dont want to end up with a stressed and exhausted nanny, make sure you regulate their hours properly.
Not Being AppreciatedLots of nannies name a common difficulty with the job is that they dont feel fully appreciated. They feel that some mothers can even resent them for having been with their children all day whilst they have been at work. It is worth remembering that the job of a nanny consists of repetitive and mundane work and although the relationship with the children can be rewarding, working as a nanny is a solitary role where tasks consist of many menial tasks alongside the fun activities. Do remember to thank your nanny on a regular basis; a little word of appreciation goes a long way.
Being UnderminedEven if youre nanny is not being overworked, under-paid or under-valued, do you undermine them? The undermining of their authority is another common nanny complaint.
When you employ a nanny, you are asking someone to impose your own guidelines whilst you are away. These guidelines include your chosen disciplinary approach, the setting if boundaries and of teaching the children to respect your rules. If, then, the parent undermines the nanny, it can cause a build-up of resentment between the nanny and parents which also puts the children in contention as well. An example might be that the mother asks the nanny to make sure their child has no sweets that day. Nanny complies with this wish and tells the child that Mummy has said no to sweets. If, when the mother returns home from work, she brings the child sweets, she immediately sends the wrong message to the child and the nannys authority is undermined, undoing her hard work through the day and setting up problems for the next day. Unfortunately, nannies often report that this kind of thing happens a lot and it makes their job that much more difficult.
So next time you think about employing a nanny, do bear in mind the above points.