Live-in or Live-out Nanny

Making the Decision

It is important that you are comfortable with the option you choose. The following are some of the more (or less) common pros and cons for each arrangement:

Advantages ofLive-in care:

Theliveinnannyoffers the family many advantages.Aliveinnannywill reside in your home, generally in a private bedroom, and will receive room and board in addition to her salary. TheLiveinnannyis never late for work due to car trouble, weather, or just plain traffic.Livein nannies adapt to the rhythm of thenanny-family more quickly than the come and gonannyas a result of increased familiarity.

Live-in caregivers often provide families with greater flexibility since thenannylives with the family and the parents dont, for example, need to rush home to get dinner for their family. The family will have a wonderful opportunity to get to know thenannybetter and sooner than if thenannyarrives at the home each morning as parents are leaving and leaves the home each evening as parents are arriving. Through this increased interaction from the very beginning, the family will become more familiar and at ease with thenannyand this will translate to less anxiety for parents (and the children) when parents leave the house each day. Alive-in caregiver is generally more available to address last minute scheduling issues, as they do not have their own family waiting for them at home in the evening or early mornings. (Remember, even if thelive-innannyis available for overtime, the family must compensate her for the additional hours worked.) Parents who require 24/7 coverage at times due to work travel find that aliveinnannycan betteraccommodatethis occasional need. There is some anecdotal evidence that the retention rate of alive-innannyis better than theirlive-outcounterparts.

Disadvantages ofLive-in care:

Families must be prepared to provide separate private sleeping quarters at a minimum andin most situations, access to a vehicleon a fairly regular basis. While the majority oflive-in nannies do not have their own vehicle,live-outcaregivers usually have their own transportation public or their own vehicle. Also be prepared to address the logistics and dynamics (privacy being just one consideration) of adding an additional adult into the household.

Theliveinnannywill generally expect a private, furnished bedroom and would prefer a private bath. Somelivein nannies will agree to share a bath with the small children, but rarely with the other adults in the household. Aliveinnannywill often eat with the family, and providing meals for theliveinnannyis part of the overall employment package. Many families offer to allow theliveinnannyto add certain items to the family grocery list herfavouriteyoghurtor soda pop for example.

Families hiringlive-in caregivers are often surprised at how little value is assigned to the living arrangements in the nannys compensation. Aliveinnannysalary is between 10 15% below that of a similarly qualifiedliveoutnanny. The majority oflive-in nannies are younger, less experienced caregivers. As their earning potential increases, many of them aspire toliveout. Why? Manylive-in nannies prefer the privacy of their ownaccommodations, and fear being at the familys beck-and-call 24/7. Living where you work, and living with the boss has some obvious down sides from the employee perspective.

Families hiring alive-in caregiver who is relocating to their area must be prepared to provide thenannywith contacts/ideas for making new friendships and social connections. These issues should be discussed as part of the interview process; home-sick nannies are unhappy nannies and the relationship inevitably degrades if this important issue cannot be overcome.

Advantages ofLiveOut(Come and Go) care

Obvious advantages include the fact that another adult is not added to the household; there is no need to allocate space to thenanny. Thenanny- parent personality mesh is less important, and the employer employee dynamics aremoretraditional (remembering that personalities and emotions will always have a role innannyrelationships because children are involved). Theliveoutnannywill often already be familiar with and have ties within the community.

Someliveoutnannies commute via their private vehicle. Families will often ask theliveoutnannyto run errands or provide transportation to/from preschool and other activities using the nannys car. Dont be surprised ifnannyrefuses! When thenannyagrees, be prepared to address the insurance issues (her rates will increase to get coverages to protect her and your children in the event of an accident during work hours) and provide adequate compensation for fuel, depreciation and maintenance. Most nannies who agree to use their vehicle will expect per mile compensation at the IRS prevailing rate ($0.505 for 2008).

Disadvantages ofLiveOutcare:

There is less flexibility in hours and schedules withliveoutemployees. Theliveoutnannyoften has a family of her own that she returns to each evening, often her own children who require help with homework, transportation to activities, etc. Theliveoutnannywill expect to arrive for work at a set hour and be relieved according to schedule. There may be transportation issues, particularly during inclement weather. Punctuality may be an issue, often a factor of commuting distances and traffic/transit issues.Live-outcaregivers are typically somewhat better compensated than theirlive-in counterparts, and may be more likely to change jobs to improve hours, compensation, or commuting time/expense than alive-in.

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